Every year or two, my husband and I try to get away from it all. It’s challenging as a parent, especially a special needs parent, to disconnect from all the responsibilities of daily life and just be a couple.
So, we make a point to rent a cabin in the woods and/or mountain every once in a while to get away from all the things that keep us busy. We don’t bring work, try not to always talk about the kids, and spend a couple days just being adults. Continue reading “A Break From It All”
Most nights, if M wakes up at 1 AM, it is going to be a rough night. Some nights though, he jumps out of his room and creeps quietly into mine. I open up the comforter to let him crawl in next to me and he falls quietly asleep snuggled up.
I wonder on those nights if he had a bad dream or was lonely and just needed his mommy to comfort him and make him feel safe. It’s hard to know what he’s thinking since he is non-verbal and can’t really communicate those kinds of things to me.
I made it through my first week of summer vacation. It wasn’t easy, but gave me a better idea of what to expect for the rest of the summer.
The biggest challenges are my limited ability to take on freelance work while managing both of the kids on a daily basis, keeping Q socially engaged with other children his age, a lack of freedom/personal time for my own personal activities (such as exercise), and finding the balance between chores, playtime, errands, and structured activities that works for us.
Next week, both the kids have day camps which I have carefully balanced the drop off and pick up schedules for to manage since they are an hour apart. Q really needs the social interaction with more kids, so I’m looking forward to it for his sake. Also, since M has his camp for three days of the week, I’ll be able to get some more work and errands done (and get some walking in) hopefully.
Summer is right around the corner, which means parents (like me) everywhere are rushing to fill the days with activities that will keep their children active and engaged.
My eldest son (Q), like so many kids, is eager for school to let out for the break but will be bored out of his little mind after 2 weeks. He will miss all of his friends and wish school was back in session. So, giving him a handful of things to look forward to over the summer.
My youngest son (M), thrives on routine and the summer break is a massive disruption to his life. He has his regular activities in summer, but they are spaced out differently and it throws things for a loop.
So, what’s on the agenda?
M will spend the month of July going to Extended School Year (ESY) for half-days Monday through Thursday to help ensure that he doesn’t lag behind on his skills in the fall.
M will also continue his weekly 1-on-1 speech and occupational therapy sessions at The Autism Project.
M will go to a special needs day camp 3-4 days each week when he is not in ESY. Q will go to 1 or 2 week-long day camps to spice up his summer.
The local YMCA camp offers shortened overnight camp weeks for new overnight campers, so we might sign Q up for that. We are going to an open house to test the waters with him first.
We have season passes to Six Flags America, so we will likely spend some time in their water park area here in MD during the summer vacation.
My husband and I will take a long weekend to get away from it all while grandparents watch the kids. In August, we might take a whole family trip somewhere fun, like Hershey Park in PA or Rehoboth Beach, DE.
I will try to do some math, reading, and writing with Q especially over the summer so that he hits 3rd grade up and running in September. He struggles the most with writing, so we will work on that.
Fourth of July brings parades/fireworks and the Fireman’s Carnival Fundraiser to the area. We will bust out the sprinkler or water balloons in the backyard. We will go to local parks and playgrounds. We will hit up a free Smithsonian museum in DC once or twice. Watch some movies on the couch. Go on adventures around the area…just for fun.
I took my son on a mother-son trip to NYC over Memorial Day Weekend this year. I’d never been to New York before, which seems abit crazy considering how close it is. It’s only a 3 hour ride via Amtrak and cost around $200 for the two of us to travel there.
Planning the Trip
This was a very kid-centric adventure. Our entire goal for the 3-day adventure (two days of activities) was to see the Statue of Liberty, Central Park, Central Park Zoo, and as much of the city as possible.
Q really wanted to take a genuine yellow taxi to our hotel so that he could see the city on the way there. I splurged and booked us at the Park Lane Hotel on Central Park south, which was in a great location! Walking distance to multiple subway stations, Central Park, Central Park Zoo, Rockefeller Center, MoMA, Times Square, 5th Avenue (shopping), The Plaza (which has a food hall), multiple theaters, and much much more. We didn’t have time to do everything, so being located somewhere we could experience the most was awesome. We grabbed pizza at PazzaNotte, then some super delicious treats at Maison Kayser (both in Midtown West). The pistachio eclair was divine!
We started the morning grabbing coffee and croissants and walking across the street from our hotel (Park Lane Hotel) to Central Park. My son LOVE exploring every rock, bridge, and pond we could find. There are some great spots in the park where you can feel the city/park connection and other places where you could easily forget you are in a huge city. We went back when the zoo opened at 10 AM. The zoo was small, but still a lot of fun and just the right amount of walking on a hot and humid spring day. You can see the seals from the exterior of the zoo, so we got to see them when exploring the park too.
After taking a rest, we walked over to Rockefeller Center. They have a Top of the Rock exhibit where you can go to the top of the building and view Central Park, the Empire State Building, and the rest of the city. It’s about $40 for an adult ticket, but a great way to see it all. The Empire State Building also has a top of the city view, but it’s a longer line and about $55 for an adult ticket.
There are LOTS of shops at Rockefeller Center, but it is easy to get lost there too. I lost track of how many times I got turned around trying to find things. My son was mostly interested in the Nintendo NY store and the LEGO store. There was a cute store called PIQ there with really cute, unique gifts too I would recommend.
I correctly predicted that the hardest part of the trip would be finding restaurants with child-friendly options. I knew we could grab hot dogs and french fries at any Nathan’s hot dog stand, if nothing else. After scouring the web for places to eat, I found that the Rock Center Cafe at Rockefeller Center had a kid’s menu with chicken tenders on it and quickly made a reservation.
I didn’t know until we got there and my son said “let’s eat outside”, that it was located where the famous ice rink is in the winter, right in front of the iconic Prometheus statue/fountain and Rockefeller Center tour. I thought it would be packed on a holiday weekend, but it was barely busy when we ate around 6:30 PM. I highly recommend it for families.
It was a rainy morning, so we slept in and hung around the hotel room until it was time to go. We took the 5 Train Downtown to Battery Park to explore and then catch the ferry to Liberty Island & Ellis Island to see the Statue of Liberty. Battery Park is very large, and we were only able to see a small portion of it. There are some great gardens, walks, monuments, views, and activities there for visitors. I wish we had spent more time there.
We even encountered a VERY friendly squirrel there, which my son was fascinated by. He ate some food nearby us and spent some time on each of our laps. It was clear that he spends a lot of time interacting with humans getting snacks.
We took a short ferry ride from Battery Park to Liberty Island. FYI, you have to pass through lines and a security checkpoint to get to the ferry. We had tickets to go into the statue, up to the Pedestal. My son wanted to walk 196 stairs up instead of taking the elevator, so that’s what we did. It was a great experience and included a small museum (they’re building a new one on the island) also. We skipped Ellis Island because my son was a bit motion sick from the ferry and ready to quit. I’d love to go back sometime though.
The parks in New York were wonderful and the city has a lot to offer. I would love to go back to be able to see more of the city, such as museums, theater, the Bronx Zoo, and more of the parks too.
I personally think Washington DC is much nicer than NYC. It’s cleaner, quieter, and friendlier. Also, the museums in DC are mostly free. Somehow, my credit card information was stolen while I was in NYC and days later someone tried to withdraw money from my account at two different New Jersey ATMs, so be careful using your card.
For those who don’t know me, I am a researcher. No, that is NOT my profession. It’s just what I do. Research, organize, and plan.
I research all sorts of random stuff: where I would live if I moved to San Diego, what restaurants in NYC are kid-friendly, new recipes that I can make in the crockpot, storage solutions for tv wires, and much much more.
I posted not long ago about my frustrations with changing lifestyle habits to no apparent avail. It was incredibly disheartening to know I was eating healthy and exercising daily and seeing no results. Two weeks passed and nothing, but around 3-4 weeks I finally progressed.
For those who don’t already know me, I am an Atheist. To some people, that word invokes a lot of negative emotions. I find that this is usually because it is so contrary to their own personal belief system that they have difficulty understanding and accepting it. While, I identify as an atheist, I consider myself a Secular Humanist.
I started walking 4-5 days a week. Approximately 2.5 miles each day. I started watching my calorie intake and making healthier food choices. By like so many women before me, I am finding almost no change in my body to reflect that. It’s frustrating!
I am not expecting a huge change right away, but some indicator that all the hard work is paying off. Instead, I step on my smart scale and see my body fat percentage has soared to the highest it has ever been! What!?!
I know I could be doing more to push that dial, but to have it not move at all the way I want it to is frustrating and disheartening. It makes me feel like all the effort has been for nothing