I am ready for autumn. I’d love to pretend it’s because I love the changing of leaves (really, I think it’s depressing to see them all wither up and die) or because I enjoy cooler weather and shorter hours of sunlight (who doesn’t enjoy seasonal affective disorder). Really, I am just ready for the boys to go back to school!
Every year or two, my husband and I try to get away from it all. It’s challenging as a parent, especially a special needs parent, to disconnect from all the responsibilities of daily life and just be a couple.
So, we make a point to rent a cabin in the woods and/or mountain every once in a while to get away from all the things that keep us busy. We don’t bring work, try not to always talk about the kids, and spend a couple days just being adults. Continue reading “A Break From It All”
Summer is right around the corner, which means parents (like me) everywhere are rushing to fill the days with activities that will keep their children active and engaged.
My eldest son (Q), like so many kids, is eager for school to let out for the break but will be bored out of his little mind after 2 weeks. He will miss all of his friends and wish school was back in session. So, giving him a handful of things to look forward to over the summer.
My youngest son (M), thrives on routine and the summer break is a massive disruption to his life. He has his regular activities in summer, but they are spaced out differently and it throws things for a loop.
For those who don’t know me, I am a researcher. No, that is NOT my profession. It’s just what I do. Research, organize, and plan.
I research all sorts of random stuff: where I would live if I moved to San Diego, what restaurants in NYC are kid-friendly, new recipes that I can make in the crockpot, storage solutions for tv wires, and much much more.
For those who don’t already know me, I am an Atheist. To some people, that word invokes a lot of negative emotions. I find that this is usually because it is so contrary to their own personal belief system that they have difficulty understanding and accepting it. While, I identify as an atheist, I consider myself a Secular Humanist.
Everyone has their own preferences for things, but I thought I would share some of mine, because that’s how they became my favorites. Someone once shared an item that they liked with me, so I tried it. If I liked it, it then joined my list. Maybe it will also join yours.
Among other things, the bulk of my days are spent on freelance writing/editing, household chores, and child-related activities. It’s these other things that seem to make or break my days. They are often ME moments I spend relaxing or doing something that I enjoy.
It’s easy to say you should find your happy, but it’s MUCH harder in practice to find the time, energy, and motivation for these activities. Here are a couple of ways I find my happy, but you do whatever works for YOU!
A month ago today, I quit my job to stay-at-home. It’s been both exactly what I expected and not what I expected at all.
So far, my schedule has been prettyerratic. I’d like to think that’s just because I haven’t established a routine, but mostly I haven’t had a chance to start to form one. The last four weeks have been a mixture of inconsistencies between the schedule for the family and my own work.
I’d like to hope that a typical schedule will gradually develop, but I am starting to think that anything resembling an average week went out the window a month ago.
For now, it’s just playing it by ear and see how things go.
When I was a child, intelligence meant one thing: good grades. If you didn’t get them, your parents likely had “words with you” about your performance as a student. After my son was diagnosed with autism spectrum disorder (ASD) with language impairments and borderline intellectual impairments, I started rethinking the world of IQ and Intelligence.
IQ (or Intelligence Quotient) is a standardized test mean to assess human intelligence. It’s also used to determine if an individual has an intellectual disability. Sounds simple, right?
The way we view life and the world around us is unique to our experiences and personality. It’s hard to remember and make the concentrated effort to change our perspective, but if we can manage it the results can be more than worth the effort.
It’s both as simple and as complicated as changing our dominant hand. Only about 1% of people are naturally ambidextrous. Many people, such as myself, can write legibly with both hands, but writing with the non-dominant hand often feels unnatural and takes more effort. Most people can train themselves to use both hands, but this too takes a concentrated effort.
One of the pitfalls of being in the majority (in this case right-handedness) is that you forget about the minority (about 12% of people are lefties). This allegory can apply to many perspective issues and has taught me to rethink the way I approach the world.