I am tired of society, both media and other moms, disparaging the supermom a.k.a. the “Mom Who’s Trying to Do It All”.
This usually refers to the mom who is trying to be perfect in every aspect of her life, rather than one who is just trying to keep everything under control or get everything she has to accomplished.
It is a positive thing to try to be the best you can at the things that are important to you.
As long as you are doing it for your own satisfaction AND not stressing out about what you really just don’t have the time or skill for.
Continue reading “Trying to Do It All: A Supermom’s Advice to the All Moms”
Only three more weeks to go until all the changes take place in my life. I am equal parts nervous and excited.
I go back and forth probably 50 times a day between wondering what the hell I was thinking and eagerly anticipating being able to accomplish all of the things during the day that I have never been able to before while the kids are in school.
Continue reading “Just Around the Corner”
One question I’ve been asked is “What will you do all day when your kids are in school?”
A Different Kind of Work
Yes, I still plan to work. It’s just going to be a different KIND of work.
Unpaid work, for the most part, but for a couple years now, I have done freelance work in my meager spare time. More spare time means more freelance time possible.
Most of MY freelance work is editing and writing academic papers. It’s amazing how many people will pay you money to format their references into APA-format, correct their grammar, or ghostwrite their memoirs because they don’t have the time or skill to do so.
How to Make Money From Out of Your Own Home
Pretty much, I’ve learned that if you can do something not everyone else can (whether it’s sewing a costume, playing the oboe, dying hair, being home midday to care for pets, or creating spreadsheets) it is instantly a marketable skill. The trick is finding people who need your skillset and are willing to pay a reasonable fee for it.
Here are ten websites to consider using for marketing your unique skills and talents online:
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M started new therapy services yesterday.
He used to have county-based 1-on-1 services prior to starting full-time school days. The parents of his fellow classmate recommended Group Therapy and 1-on-1 Therapy services that they use through The Autism Project in Owings, Maryland.
Continue reading “Adventures In Therapy”
One of the most common tips that I have received from current stay-at-home parents is to make a schedule and stick to it.
This is one of those things that sounds super duper simple, but is really a big pain in the ass. There are just too many variables currently undetermined to hammer down anything resembling a predictable a schedule.
I know I will be the most productive directly after getting both the boys off to school. That means that I should probably use that time for the tasks that I am most likely to avoid OR something I need to be diligent about accomplishing.
Which means I have to consider joining a gym…and the class schedules of the closest ones. Cardio Kick at 9:15 AM ? Pilates are at 10:30 AM ? I don’t even know what those things are!
So, instead of saying “Exercise at 9 AM”…I now find myself looking up Pilates online and reconsidering. Will altering my original plan to 10:30 on Tuesday/Thursdays will completely destroy my productivity plan or offer me daily diversity?
I think I will just pencil everything in for now and wait until I’ve actually been a SAHM for a couple weeks at least before figuring out a schedule that works for me.
Or I’ll just distract myself from making one by watching Cardio Kick videos while contemplating if I could really do that for 45 minutes straight twice a week.
Every December, I get bombarded with requests for suggestions for my gifts for my autistic and sensory-seeking son.
He doesn’t have an interest in the same toys and objects that many neurotypical children the same age do. It makes it challenging (even for people who know him very well) to find gifts that he will actually enjoy.
Keeping in mind that not all sensory-seeking or autistic individuals are alike, here is a list I have created of some gift ideas for the autistic or sensory-seeking child in MY life, to help you shop for yours this holiday season.
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Despite my ass-backward approach, my transition from to SAHM has actually been a long-time coming.
It didn’t come like a freight train barreling down on me in a frightening manner.
Nor like a holiday present you are eagerly waiting to receive.
More like an impending root canal, where you know you’re going to have to suffer through a procedure to improve your overall quality of life. You can only avoid the event for so long before it becomes crucial, and when it does happen…you’re so relieved that you welcome the event.
I can’t tell if that makes it sound better or worse than it actually is.
It’s probably both….
Continue reading “When Push Comes To Shove”
It should have come as no surprise to anyone who knows me, that I do things completely out of order.
While other freshmen in high school were taking Earth Sciences, I opted to skip ahead to Biology. The result was having to loop back around and take it as a senior after I came to the understanding that more advanced sciences and I were not compatible.
So, while most individuals who elect (whether by choice or circumstance) to become a SAHM get in on the ground floor when their kids are infants or toddlers, I (in typical ass-backward fashion) have delayed this for a long time.
I worked full-time for more than 6 years since my oldest son was born. Then, I stepped down to part-time for a couple years.
Finally, I decided (and finances aligned) that it was time to join the stay-at-home moms.
Both my boys have now started school full-time (Second Grade and Kindergarten), which seems like an odd time to make the transition.
Or is it?
Continue reading “Doing Things Ass-Backward”
Time flies when you are busy living life. I shouldn’t be shocked that it’s swiftly moving along, since I feel like I have so much to still get ready for!
Just when I feel like I have plenty of time, I keep looking up and seeing that bridge in my life is getting closer and closer.
Then, suddenly, I am at the toll booth in line to cross.
Continue reading “I’ll Cross That Bridge When I…Oh, Shit There It Is!”
Growing up, my mother was a stay-at-home mother (SAHM). Even after all of us had started school full-time.
I thought she was crazy pants. I couldn’t imagine being bored at home all day, so dependent on my spouse financially, or have my entire existence defined by parenthood.
My dad was in the Navy and deployed on 6-month cruises periodically, so it actually made perfect sense for our family to have a dedicated adult on stand-by to deal with the absurdity of school schedules, after-school activities, medical appointments, and general child-rearing for the three of us girls.
Continue reading “If The Shoe Fits…And Sometimes When It Doesn’t”